Happy New Year! So, have you forgotten your resolution yet?

Because it’s is about to disappear!

Are you still in love with your resolutions?

Smitten by what you’re trying to change?

Good luck.

You’ve got about a week before your brain gives up.

What exactly do resolutions mean to the brain?

Resolutions are thoughts.
They are ideas about how we’re going to make life different for ourselves.
And these are the most expensive kinds of thoughts.
Because they involve change.

What happens to our brain when we create a resolution?

When we try to change our behavior, we create a group of new thoughts.
If we are diligent, these new thoughts turn into actions.
These thoughts and actions require us to spend much more brain energy than normal.
The extra brain processing power is not cheap.

Our brains don’t like to be drained!

Have you ever tried to learn a new language, train on a new skill, or start a new job?
Have you had a new baby?
Have you moved into a new home?
Have you traveled a long distance?
Did you notice how exhausting it was?
New things take much more energy than routine actions.

We’re built for efficiency.

As soon as we realize that we have to repeat a task, our brain starts to rewrite the instructions for that task into shorthand.
Then it automates that process to make it easier and less energy-demanding.

Repetition is easier.

This is why we can still sign happy birthday and recognize our own name, long after we’ve run out of energy for even the simplest tasks.
This is why you can still drive home after a hard day at work but have no recall of the trip.
This is why you can eat a dozen donuts without blinking an eye.
You’re on autopilot, the comfortable place of energy conservation that keeps your brain from burning out.

Dopamine, reward and our thoughts.

When we are rewarded, the brain triggers a hit of dopamine.
Dopamine gives us a flood of good feelings.
Dopamine also helps to filter out background noise and unnecessary sensory input.
This is why it’s fatiguing to hear droning background noises.
This is why it’s exhausting to obsessively think the same thoughts over and over.
And while the idea of starting a new behavior as part of the New Year’s resolution can feel rewarding for a short period of time…
…The brain eventually adjusts and drowns out the goodness due to the effect of a tolerance threshold.

Tolerance thresholds smash your good intentions to change.

The brain learns to adjust to a new thought process.
After a bit, new thoughts no longer feel rewarding.
This is called a tolerance threshold.
This is the same effect that keeps drug addicts on the hook.
This is the same effect that keeps many people stuck…
…avoiding spending the ever higher amounts of energy that needed to grow to the next level.
A tolerance threshold will hold you back and keep you in your comfort zone.

So why are resolutions hard to keep?

Change requires brain energy.
And resolutions really are relatively small changes.
If change were easy, we would be doing it all the time.
But change is hard, because small changes hit tolerance thresholds quickly.
This make small changes unsustainable.
Resolutions are just not big enough to count.
So resolutions are a waste of time.
They set us up for failure, disappointment and negative self-image.

Then how do we change?!  How do we improve ourselves?!

It takes massive energy to sustain new thoughts and create new behaviors.
It takes massive energy to rewrite the code and rewire your brain.
In order to really change, your thoughts have to be BIG THOUGHTS.
The actions around those thoughts have to be BIG ACTIONS.
Big thoughts and big actions result in transformation.
If you want to change, YOU MUST TRANSFORM YOURSELF!

Transformation: How to get past your tolerance thresholds

To change, your thoughts must transform you.
Transformation is about rewriting your own code
Transformation is about hacking your own behaviors.
Transformation requires a tremendous amount of energy UP FRONT.
It requires a deep, visceral, almost desperate awareness that change is needed.
And once the code is rewritten and the change has taken place, your brain will throttle back down to its most efficient level of energy use.
Your brain will take a transformation and make it stick.
Transformations will be there long after you have forgotten your resolutions.

Decide to transform yourself.

The next time you’re deciding to make a change, don’t waste your time on resolutions.
Commit to transforming yourself.
Imagine how you’ll be after the transformation is complete.
How good you’ll feel that you finally:
– Shed that extra weight.
– Quit drinking
– Stopped sleeping around
– Organized your finances
– Came out of your shell and became more social.

TRANSFORMATION IS DAMNED HARD TO DO BY YOURSELF.

Most people fail at self-transformation.
It requires a sincere dedication of sustained energy.
And accountability.
And encouragement.
And support.
Transformation requires changes that most mortals are not able to muster on their own.

GET A COACH!

It’s easier today than any time in history to be transformed!
Today, we have the tools to get access to help like never before:  An abundance of high-quality coaches!
A coach is a mentor, a guide, someone with experience helping people transform themselves.
A coach will identify your tolerance thresholds.
A coach will help you find the way to make your changes.
A coach will hold you accountable.
And a coach will push you until the changes stick for good.

So don’t wait for the New Year to make it happen. There’s no better time to transform yourself than now – the world is waiting for it!

 

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